Voices Raised

I’ve started and stopped writing this post about once a week for the last month.  It started off as basically an admission of panic.  It seemed like the world was collapsing and I wanted to help, but I had no idea how to…

There’s so many people and places that need help in some fashion or another:
Hurricanes and typhoons in record numbers and strength all over the world.
Fires blanketing the western US.
As I write this sentence, in the last 36 days, over 100 people have died in mass shootings in America.
Refugee crises in Syria, Sudan, and elsewhere.
Floods and mudslides in Sierra Leone killing hundreds.
An ever-growing uneasiness and tension among American society, largely divided along racial lines.
And all the while, a woman sits at the exit of the parking lot to my favorite lunch spot, holding a sign that says, “Hungry Please Help God Bless”

Finances are tight for me, but I could probably spare a bit here and there for a donation.  My time is in short supply, but I could probably find a couple days a month to volunteer somewhere.  But none of this seems like enough.  What difference will my 20 bucks or few hours a month make?  Any?  Maybe.  It’s worth a shot.  Maybe it only changes one life, maybe it only makes one person’s day a little better.  But maybe that’s worth it.

As the emergencies multiply and tensions escalate all around us, the voices are rising too.  Political commentators/news anchors shout at each other on our TV’s.  Twitter has become nothing more than a massive hate-fest consisting of bite-sized viewpoints and personal attacks in 140 characters or less.  It’s barely even possible to drive two blocks without seeing at least one viewpoint plastered all over the back of a hybrid car or a lifted truck, respectively.

The voices that are rising the loudest are the most extreme.  There is no room for compromise or for understanding with them.  Anyone who doesn’t agree in full is the enemy… And these voices are becoming rallying points.  Polls are showing more division today in American society than any other time in the last 40 years, and on some topics, more division than any time since the civil war.

The saddest part to me is how many people I have spoken to or read comments from who are genuinely shocked when they meet someone with an opposing opinion and they don’t hate them.  They come face to face with someone who they would see as evil incarnate if they were posting on a comment thread.  Then instead of punching them, they politely disagree with each other, and maybe learn something in the process.  It’s the civility that shocks them; the idea that the people on the other side of this massive divide aren’t actually different from themselves is somehow a revelation to them.  That’s heartbreaking. 

I truly believe that the majority of people in our society are moderate.  People would agree on more than they realize if they would just give discussion a chance.  The problem is that the only voices we are listening to are the loudest voices on the edges of these discussions.  We’re listening to a handful of people on a stage screaming into megaphones instead of turning and talking to the person standing next to us in the crowd.

To get to my point for this post, I don’t have much to give as far as money or time.  I don’t have the capability to go to a storm or fire ravaged community and rebuild.  I don’t have the ability to give comfort to those who have lost loved ones or to heal a community ripped apart by violence.  All I really have is my voice. 

It’s small, it’s not particularly loud.  I don’t have many people listening to me, and I’m not entirely sure why the few people that do listen continue to do so… But my voice is all I have.  And a voice can grow.  More importantly, a single voice may be able to start a conversation; and ten thousand conversations could drown out a few loud voices. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I have opinions on all of this chaos, and they may be all I have that is worth anything.  I’m going to be giving voice to those opinions.  I hope you will too, because if just one person can find something of worth out of the conversations, then it will have been an opinion well voiced.

I’ll leave you with this today… The next time you get into a rage because some commentator said such and such about so and so, take a deep breath before picking a fight in the comments section.  Find someone to talk to, someone that you don’t usually talk to about these things, and get their opinion.  Maybe it won’t change a thing; but maybe it will.

And if you can’t think of anyone to talk to, or you want a moderate opinion and don’t know where to find one, reach out to me.  I’m always happy to have a discussion.


The political necessity of perseverance

For those of you looking for hope in a seemingly hopeless world, I strongly recommend one watch Bryan Stevenson’s, the President of the Equal Justice Initiative, TED Talk. In it, Mr. Stevenson recounts a conversation he once had with Rosa Parks. As the social activist explains his organization’s mission, Mrs. Parks exhales, gathers her thoughts and responds, “Oh boy… that’s going to make you tired, tired, and tired.”

The lack of political statesmanship, escalating nuclear tensions, non-stop climate disasters, and our country’s largest mass murder have certainly made many of us tired, tired, and tired.

Despite these trying times, I hope we don’t find solace in political solitude. We instead, march on and understand the fundamentally important psychological and political reasons for persevering.

In these stressful moments, it is understandable to give up and retreat to our ideological echo chambers or simply disengage from politics all together. The perpetual state of outrage and agony wrecks an emotional toll on our mental health. Having to continually keep up with the political mishaps hampers our urge to be civically active, and worse, our ability to be empathetic to others suffering.

President John F. Kennedy once virtuously remarked, “Don’t pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men.”

And Psychologist Angela Duckworth explained, “Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.”

Both are right. We must pray to be strong, but also endure. Because there is not the time to succumb to the cacophony of the current Presidential political rhetoric or wave the white flag to dangerous policy changes.

Justifying repugnant rhetoric only invites more repugnance in the future. When our country’s moral compass is out of sync, it is paramount to stand up and fight to properly adjust it and set it on its right course. Moreover, apart from extraordinary exceptional events, creating a silent majority that withdraws from the Democratic process rarely leads to noteworthy progress.

As wearisome as the status quo may be, they are even more cumbersome for others. More than four in ten U.S. children are living close to the poverty line, suicide rates for adolescent boys and girls have been steadily rising since 2007, 25% of incoming freshman will fail to graduate from high school, the United States houses 22% of the world’s prisoners, and we haven’t even touched the topics of race, Appalachia, or climate change.

But history shows, if we continue to persevere we can achieve tangible positive results. On June 20, 1979, the Carter administration installed 32 panels designed to harvest the sun's rays and use them to heat water. He was mocked and ridiculed by both parties. Almost thirty years later we are witnessing the rising rapid adoption of solar energy. Three times as many workers are employed by the solar industry than the entire coal mining industry.

In November 19, 1945 President Truman called for universal healthcare. Granted, the current system is far from optimal, but today 11% of Americans lack health insurance – down from the 35% when America’s 33rd President called for complete coverage.

Around the same time, a young female from Tuskegee, Alabama joined the Montgomery chapter of the NAACP. One morning in 1943, a young bus driver by the name of James Blake ejected this lady from the bus after she refused to re-enter the vehicle through the back door after paying her fare at the front. Over the next decade, she continued to be involved in the Civil Rights movement.

Almost 12 years later, on the afternoon of December 1, 1955, returning home from her job as an assistant tailor at a Montgomery, Alabama, department store, she boarded bus 2857 on the Cleveland Avenue line. When told to give up her seat for a white man, she refused and was arrested for violating the city’s racial segregation laws. Her act of civil disobedience precipitated the 13-month Montgomery Bus Boycott, which was led by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Her name was Rosa Parks.

It’s difficult to imagine or pinpoint the grit or inspiration behind the perseverance for these noble and brave acts. It’s probably even more difficult to fathom that such societal improvements can occur today. We, however, must believe that our young Democracy will continue to experience a graceful evolution that we are unable to currently envision. If we do, I am (somewhat) optimistic that we can persevere and make some progress that decades from now we can look to as a symbol of hope.


See No Evil

                Sometimes there are no words to be said, none that make sense anyway.  Sometimes there’s no way to reconcile or explain what happened.  It’s times like these that hurt the most, and it’s times like these that may take years before we’re able to find the right words to put it all in perspective. 

                My friend died this week.  I miss him.  I don’t know what else to say.  It hurts.  It’s one of those emotional pains deep enough that it manifests itself in a physical way.  The voices in my head want me to scream that it’s not fair, it’s not just… this isn’t how life was supposed to happen; but I don’t have the energy to utter a single word.

                I wish I could go back and fix this and fix so many things.  I wish I could go back and talk to him one more time, ten more times, a hundred more times.  I wish I could go back and help him, through this and everything.  I know though, that he would be the first to tell me how useless it is to wish.

                Life happens.  Sometimes it’s short, other times it’s long.  Sometimes it’s ugly, but every so often it’s beautiful.  I believe that overall the beauty outweighs the ugliness, but sometimes I wonder.

                I don’t know what else to say.  I’m hurt, I’m angry, I’m sad.  I don’t know.  I don’t know.  All I do know is that I will use this pain and this anger.  I’m not sure what for, but they’ll be put to good use; maybe in that book I keep promising myself but never deliver.  Or maybe not.  That’s what he would have done, I think.  For now, I just don’t know… the world doesn’t seem right.

                Goodbye my friend, you will be missed.

   Tom Durham – 1987 to 2017

“Each one of us here today will at one time in our lives look upon a loved one who is in need and ask the same question: We are willing to help, Lord, but what, if anything, is needed? For it is true we can seldom help those closest to us. Either we don't know what part of ourselves to give or, more often than not, the part we have to give is not wanted. And so it is those we live with and should know who elude us. But we can still love them - we can love completely without complete understanding.” 
Norman Maclean, A River Runs Through It


A Message in a Bottle

This is a post that I’ve been struggling with for a while now… I don’t know everyone that reads my blog, but I know a good number of you, and I know that all of you have very different views of the world.  I’m proud of that fact.  It makes me happy when someone who is either a staunch Republican or a diehard Democrat, approaches me and lets me know that they look forward to reading my posts.  It makes me particularly happy when people from both sides of this divide let me know that they really enjoyed the same post.

That being said, I typically do what I can to avoid having too many partisan viewpoints in my writing.  I don’t like sites or “news” that state opinion as fact and imply that anyone who disagrees is automatically the enemy, no matter which viewpoint they promote. 

This brings me to one small point, before I dive into the deep end of this post.  I know I have readers that are Trump supporters.  I appreciate you, and the fact that you read my blog, I hope you continue to do so.  Nonetheless, for the sake of context, I’ll preface the rest of this post by making it clear that I don’t support Donald Trump.  I don’t trust him or his motives and I don’t believe that his actions will directly contribute to the betterment of this country.  I hope he proves me wrong; but so far he certainly hasn’t.

Despite my personal views, I see so many liberal people; friends of mine, other bloggers, reporters, etc. repeatedly state that Trump doesn’t represent the America that they know.  They still show shock that he won, they argue that he lost the popular vote, they point fingers at Russia for interfering… I’ll admit, I was confused on election night, surprised that it was actually happening.  Then again, I live in a bubble, most of us do; and it takes an event such as this to make us realize that there is more to the world than that which we allow ourselves to see every day.

This brings me to my main point… there is something very wrong in this country and other countries around the world.  We all know it.  The fact that there is something wrong has been a narrative in our society for over a decade now.  It’s a sickness that has dug itself into the bones of our society, where it’s thriving and growing.  Donald Trump, Brexit, Le Pen, and various other unprecedented movements and political actions across the world are NOT that disease, they’re just a symptom.

Let’s look at America as an example: First we have to accept the fact that Donald Trump wasn’t elected because of some accident or a fluke.  He won the election because a massive amount of people voted for him.  Did Russia interfere?  Probably.  Looking at the evidence, there’s so much smoke, chances are there’s a fire there somewhere… But that doesn’t change the fact that he developed a massive following with or without outside help.  He did it by speaking to and identifying with an immense group of people who had felt as if they had been ignored and like they didn’t have a voice in their own governing.  He gave them that voice.

Throughout the election, and now, in Trump’s America, I have seen so many blog posts, television shows, news articles, etc. from the perspective of the political left that belittle Trump’s supporters.  They look at those people and lump every single one of them together in one group and assume that anyone who voted for Trump is a racist, xenophobic, sexist, hate-filled, uneducated, hypocritical bigot.  Despite the rallying cries of “Love trumps hate” and the all-inclusive image of the political left (extended primarily to minorities and the disenfranchised in large, coastal cities), their posts and news and ideological views are still coated in hate. 

So many times I’ve seen people on Facebook post something promoting that all-inclusive nature, imploring people to stand together, to lend a helping hand, to love one another, etc.  Then I read the comments, and the first person to post a comment that is even slightly dissenting (or sometimes extremely dissenting) is immediately demeaned, belittled, and insulted.  The teeth come out and that person, no matter their point of view or their stance on various issues, is immediately dismissed and they are thrown in the same “basket of deplorables” as the most extreme Trump supporter.

Meanwhile, I see posts, videos, and news from the other side, from people who support Trump.  In fact I spend a lot of time talking to Trump supporters, face to face.  A year ago, those same people were complaining non-stop about political and social stances being forced upon them no matter whether they agreed with them or not.  They complained about a president that they felt was illegitimate and a government that didn’t represent them.  But now that Trump has won, all I hear them saying is that the “special snowflakes” of the left need to suck it up, accept that they lost, and stop complaining.  They criticize a political left that is oblivious to their own, American grass-roots values, claiming that people on the left are out of touch with reality… then they turn around and dismiss and ignore facts that challenge their perception of the world around them.

These two political ideologies are standing on opposite sides of a massive canyon, hurling rocks at each other.  The few people that remain speaking out in the middle are on tightropes and trying to dodge rocks from both sides.  Most of the voices in the middle of this argument seem to have given up and either joined one extreme or the other or simply fallen silent.

The problem in our society isn’t the far right OR the far left, it’s the divide between the two.  Donald Trump’s presidency is a product of that divide, as was Bernie Sanders’ candidacy.  The truly scary part is that the divide doesn’t only exist in our politics, it has spread to our news, our social lives, the products marketed toward us, and even the filters through which we see the world around us.  We have inadvertently created these bubbles that we live in, where we are able to shape the world into the image that we wish to see, and to largely shut out everything else.

Think back, when is the last time that you, voluntarily, sought out an article, a video, or a viewpoint that challenged your world view, and did it not for the sole purpose of wanting to tear it down, but because you wanted to understand it, for your own sake?  When is the last time that you approached a differing opinion while acknowledging the possibility, however slim, that your preconceived notions may be dead wrong?

We don’t challenge ourselves anymore.  We shy away from points of view that we don’t like, we block people that don’t agree with us, we surround ourselves with news and noise that agrees with and informs our worldview.  I’m not sure why we are doing this, why we’re unwittingly allowing this divide to grow… Maybe seeing the world the way we want to see it is just pleasant enough that we’ve become the land of the lotus eaters.  Maybe it’s the rapid advancement of technology and the decline of face to face conversations, because it’s a lot easier to be angry at a screen than it is a person who’s looking you in the eye.  Or maybe it’s cultural backlash from the speed with which our society became globalized and we’re struggling with the concept of a world that is somehow too small and too large at the same time.

Whatever the cause is, I leave that to wiser minds than mine to discover.  I can see the divide growing though, in fact I believe that most of us can see it, we just choose to ignore it or to blame it on “Them”.  The day to day people that I hear from on social media, or television, or even the people that I talk to on a regular basis, don’t tend to take any part of the blame for the divide.    I wouldn’t expect them to either, that’s a large burden to take on.  Still, at some point, we’ll have to do the unexpected, as individuals and as a society, we’ll have to stop blaming each other, take some responsibility, and strive to understand one another. 

(A brief Sir Terry Pratchett interlude):

"It was because he wanted there to be conspirators. It was much better to imagine men in some smoky room somewhere, made mad and cynical by privilege and power, plotting over the brandy. You had to cling to this sort of image, because if you didn't then you might have to face the fact that bad things happened because ordinary people, the kind who brushed the dog and told their children bedtime stories, were capable of then going out and doing horrible things to other ordinary people. It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was Us, then what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things." ~ Terry Pratchett

Back in November, I went to Austin, TX to go to a wedding of a couple friends of mine.  One night, at a bar, a friend and I were approached by a complete stranger.  The guy who stopped us had dark-ish skin, implying some sort of non-European background.  My friend and I on the other hand are a couple of big, white guys.  This stranger asked us if we saw him as “different” than ourselves, and if we viewed him as “lesser than”.  He seemed vulnerable, almost scared; as if he were shocked that he asked the question, which he’d been working up the courage to ask someone for a while.  We both of course let him know that we didn’t view him as any different than we would view anyone else.  Still, our answer isn’t important.  What is important is that he was worried enough that he felt the need to ask.

No matter what you believe, no matter which side you support, and no matter which lens you choose to view the world through; we live in a country that was founded on the simple idea that “all men are created equal”.  That idea is fundamental to our country, and to our identity.  The fact that anyone in this country is being made to feel as though that phrase doesn’t include them, nearly 241 years after the Declaration of Independence was signed, is shameful.  And that shame belongs to every one of us. 

For a country built upon the ideal of equality, we have a pretty poor track record.  If we ever want to truly live up to that standard set for us 241 years ago, then the first step would be to stop pointing fingers and to share the blame for this mess equally. 

On that note, I’m begging anyone who reads this to do one thing.  Challenge yourself, break the bubble you’re living in, and embrace the diversity that surrounds you.  Take the time to really talk to someone who disagrees with you.  Don’t dismiss them, don’t insult them, don’t demean them.  Instead, show respect, take an interest, and listen to what they have to say.  Maybe you’ll learn something, and maybe just maybe, we can start to heal this divide…

In closing, I’ll go back to a method that I’ve used in a few posts now, and remind myself and my readers of a lesson that we all should have learned as children, “two wrongs don’t make a right”.  Just because someone is a jackass and doesn’t show you or your viewpoint the respect you deserve, doesn’t mean that you’re free and clear to be a jackass to them.  We can’t move forward as a society unless we can learn to not hate each other.  I know it’s not an easy task, but it’s better than the alternative.


What a Year...

I’ve promised/planned so many blogs that I haven’t delivered on in the last few months.  Still, I’ve got to AT LEAST do one to wrap up the year of 2016, so I’m going to try to cram in all of the ones I’ve been meaning to do, Cliff’s Notes style, before getting to the meat of my New Year’s post…

The Grand Experiment (Results):

Remember when I said I was going to try out a few dating apps, to see what they’re like?  Yeah, I did that.  My opinion of them at the end?.... Meh... 

Match cost money, and yet I didn’t get much activity on it.  I would get a match here and there, but not very many that truly caught my eye.  Those that did really catch my eye, I would send them a message or something and then would never hear back from them (typically).  After a while, and when talking to a couple of my matches, it became apparent that Match.com’s algorithms give your profile more attention in the last couple of days of your paid membership.  Then you get even more push after your membership expires.
Since I let my membership expire, I have had twice as many matches reach out to me as I did when I was paying… Though since I’m not paying, I don’t have access to see those matches or the ability to respond to them.  It’s a trap.

As for Bumble… I got really few matches on that app.  Also, most of the few that I did get, wouldn’t say a word.  As a reminder, Bumble is the app where the woman HAS to make the first move.  When you both swipe right, she’s the only one that can send the first message.  I only had two actually send me a message, and one of them ended up being a friend, who borrowed someone’s phone and messaged me for her.  I don’t know why I got so little communication on Bumble… Maybe people just aren’t using it that much, maybe my profile/pictures suck, or maybe some of the women on there are realizing how difficult it can be to make the first move…

And finally, Tinder.  I talked to and even met a handful of people through this that are fun and interesting.  I went on a few dates.  They were fun, but not particularly worth following up on.  It’s a surprisingly nice way to meet random people who may share some interests or a sense of humor with you.  But for actually dating? Not for me.

Again, maybe it’s just the matches that I’m getting, or maybe it’s my profile not being as “swipe-able” as the other guys on there, or maybe I’m just not giving it and the women I meet enough of a chance.  But overall, it’s a fun social tool, not a successful dating strategy, at least not in my eyes.

So to summarize: Tinder is the only one worth anything, but even that is not great for dating.  So, as a result of all this, some days I think “I’m ready to start legitimately dating again and take this seriously.”  It’s an uplifting feeling, it’s nice.

Then other days, I remember all the games and BS rules that come along with dating in our modern society and I think, “F*** that.  Not worth the headache.” 

In other words, I’m right back where I was at this time last year!  If I stumble across someone that really interests me, then I’ll ask her out.  Otherwise, forget it.

A Quick Update (Parts 3 & 4):
I have been working a ton lately.  Traveling some, going to after work events, and having long meetings resulting in long hours… It’s been good, I love the new job, even though at times it eats into my social life.  I’ve met some new people, had some fun nights, and my friends all seem to think that I have Don Draper’s job. 

When I was planning out these two blog posts earlier, I had a lot more to say about work.  It’s been moving so fast though, that I’ve forgotten what I was going to say.  So instead here’s a variety of pictures from work.

My office...

My tiny zen garden...

The conference in Vegas 1...

The conference in Vegas 2...

The conference in Vegas 3...

The conference in Vegas 4...

End of the conference...

Don Draper 1...

Don Draper 2...

As for the house… it’s ok.  But I’m really not crazy about it.  I know I told the landlord that I would be looking to live there a long time, but I just don’t like the house enough, and I still really want to buy my own house.  So prepare yourselves to hear more about that house search in 2017. 

For those wondering about Levi and wanting an update on the old man… He’s still doing great!  He has a tumor the size of a grapefruit in his throat, and a bunch of harmless, fatty tumors all over his chest and belly.  Also, it feels like there may be some more, not-so-harmless tumors in his chest.  Despite all that, he has the energy of a puppy, and nothing seems to be slowing him down.  He’s the Benjamin Button of dogs.

For an update on my dating life, see above.

Unnamed Post-Election Blog:

Shounak and I had talked about doing a ton of post-election blogs in an attempt to calm what few people we could and hopefully have some small impact on our world.  But then life happened and I got too busy to write, and frankly lost the drive for a while there. 

So I do still have some things that I want to say and share on this topic, and I will, soon.  But for now, allow me to remind my readers of a little something…

If the election didn’t go your way:  It’s not the end of the world.  Don’t panic, don’t give in to the catastrophic mindset that has fallen over our society and that is perpetuated by 24/7 media.  Stand up for what you believe in, in a peaceful and respectful way, even if you aren’t treated with respect in turn.  Screaming at each other, fighting, and continuing to grow the divides in our society won’t accomplish anything worthwhile.  Show respect, and make an effort to understand “the other side”, because respect and understanding are the only things that will bridge these gaps.

If the election did go your way:  Congrats.  But don’t stop now, there is still work to be done.  Just because things went your way this time, doesn’t mean that there isn’t still a massive divide in this country, and it doesn’t mean that everything will magically be great again.  So…   Stand up for what you believe in, in a peaceful and respectful way, even if you aren’t treated with respect in turn.  Screaming at each other, fighting, and continuing to grow the divides in our society won’t accomplish anything worthwhile.  Show respect, and make an effort to understand “the other side”, because respect and understanding are the only things that will bridge these gaps.

We are not all as different as we are led to believe.  So stop and listen to your fellow citizens, for we must strive to find a way to respect each other and to unify once again.
That should do it for the summaries, time to get into the real New Years blog…

Every year around this time, I write a blog with the purpose of summarizing the year behind us, and looking forward to the one ahead.  As I begin that process, and look back at 2016, I see a few bright spots that were simply wonderful… and they are surrounded by the rest of the year, which resembled a dumpster full of crap sandwiches that spontaneously combusted due to a high level of methane.

2016 began, at least for me, with such incredibly high hopes and so much promise.  The year began on so many optimistic notes (365 days ago), and yet it so quickly turned to ash.  Still, I don’t want to harp on my personal life, this blog is meant to be a look at the year for all of us…

This year we lost: David Bowie, Prince, George Michael, Allen Rickman, Leonard Cohen, and Carrie Fisher (to name only a very few). 

This year contained the most violent mass shooting in US history, and that was only one of over 340 mass shootings nationwide this year.

Multiple police brutality cases and subsequent riots took the already large divide between minorities and police, and cut it open like Jack Nicholson with an axe. 

On top of all this was the incredibly drawn out and much too long 2016 election.  It was the most demeaning and pathetic excuse for civil discourse in recent memory, and it took almost the entire year to get through it all.  Now that we have gotten through it, we are in uncharted waters… No matter what you think about the results, it’s undeniable that the country is left in a very tumultuous and unsure place. 

All of this combined to create one of the most divided (by race, location, religion, political affiliation, gender, or sexual orientation) societies in our country’s history.  And I’m not even touching on things that happened in the rest of the world, because at some point we all must stop staring at the flaming dumpster of 2016, and look forward to whatever 2017 holds.

On that note, a hope…

In the next year, I hope that you rise. 

If you’ve been knocked down, pick yourself up… there will be people there to help, whose shoulders you can stand on.

Help up those around you, let them stand on your shoulders… because when we all stand together, we are giants.

If you wish to be heard, raise your voice… but raise it in song, not anger, because the world needs more beauty and less hate.

Give a voice to the voiceless, fill the silence with song… because harmony can’t be achieved alone.

If you feel alone and afraid, stand up to your fears… because the only way to push back the darkness is to shine bright.

Be a light for those around you… because the only way we can be the shining city on the hill is if we each make the effort to shine.

If an opportunity is passing you by, reach out and grab it… you never know how high it will take you until you try.

If you can provide opportunities for others, do so… opportunities are like kites, they’re more beautiful when they fill the sky, and with enough of them, you may be able to fly.

If your goals seem unattainable, keep climbing toward them… there will always be a new horizon, but with each one you reach, you grow a little more.

Make a trail for a path that hasn’t been taken, so others can follow in your footsteps… whoever follows you, may someday lead you somewhere new.

The next year will be filled with challenges, both large and small, for each and every one of us… I hope that we can each rise to the occasion, for together we can be stronger than we ever were alone.

And finally, I will leave you with this, in honor of Leonard Cohen and the challenges we can overcome…